You like their post. They like yours back. You repost something random, and they like that too. Next thing you know, you’re deep in the DMs. Maybe they reply to your story, or you start sending late-night TikToks. Nothing flirty on the surface, but it still feels flirty. You’re in.

Meanwhile, there’s a lot happening behind the scenes: screenshots, saved messages, and digital footprints you probably don’t even think about. Every interaction online leaves a footprint, and sometimes, your privacy can be as fragile as that “wyd” text you’re waiting for.

Dating apps come with their own drama, too. While you’re swiping, those apps are collecting data about you: like your location, what type of profiles you pause on, even how often you’re up swiping at 2 a.m. That data doesn’t just help them show you matches, it’s often sold, shared, or leaked. (It’s no coincidence you get ’toolkit for the heartbroken’ ads after being ghosted by someone you’ve never met.) And even deleting your profile doesn’t always mean it’s gone for good.

So how do you stay safe while still catching feelings?

Keep it low-key: That first message might be exciting, but don’t share too much too soon. No need to drop your full name, where you work, or your go-to bar. Keep some mystery to keep yourself safe.

Stories ≠ private: Posting a pic from your favorite café? Sometimes it’s smart to wait until after you’ve left the scene. People can easily figure out where you are or what your routine looks like, even if you don’t realize it.

DMs can get messy: Even if things are going well, be careful with what you send. That funny inside joke or flirty picture might seem harmless now, but screenshots can be taken out of context. Only send stuU you’re okay with possibly being seen by someone outside of the chat.

Mutual follows don’t mean trust: Just because they follow your friend or share your sense of humour doesn’t mean they’re safe. Fake accounts and scammers know how to blend in, and highly sophisticated bots are trained to act like your type.

Use privacy tools: Close friends lists. Private stories. Custom settings. Use them. Again, be mysterious.

And if something feels oU, like someone dodging video calls, sending too many compliments too fast, or making you feel weird – trust your gut. You don’t owe anyone your time. Block, mute, ghost. It’s your call, always. Date with an open heart, not open access <3